I have been bewildered by belonging. I remain surprised when love and understanding is given to me. It has been clear to me, over the years, that I am not alone in this; that most people struggle with one version or another of not knowing how to open to the love coming to them, of not knowing how to open to their longing for love, and of not knowing how important they are to the people who love them. As a helper I’m driven to strengthen the bonds of love and to help partners and family members feel the life sustaining experiences of profound belonging to the people they love.
I hope these articles will be helpful to you. You might read them to one another, as food for thought. A little thinking together about your relationship can go a long way. When you develop a shared understanding of your difficulties and a shared set of hopes for your relationship, your mutual vision for your relationship can bring you a little closer. Working together on the hurt between you can build a little hope. Shared attention to your troubles may tweak your experience of the trouble just enough to slow negative momentum.
I hope the articles will offer perspectives on how change in your relationship can happen. I would like you to know some things about what couple therapy tries to do and how it helps. Perhaps the articles will help you develop a sense of what you would like to accomplish in your couple therapy.
I’d like this website to be very helpful to you in thinking about your relationship to your partner and to your children and in thinking about how couple and family therapy can help.
My therapy offices are in Westlake Village and Encino. I’ll also make a referral for you to good and experienced therapists in the greater Los Angeles area and also in the areas of Sacramento, S.F. Bay, and Davis, California where I practiced for 25 years.
Thanks for checking out some of my articles,
Self-Reflection & New Action
Process & Patterns
Trying Harder & Trying Differently
Stuck In Your Negative Perceptions of Your Husband or Wife
A Few Simple Principles of Relationship Change
Feelings and Emotions
Asking Your Partner To Go To Couple Counseling
Music & Idea Conversations
Changing Your Relationship