The promise and the hope was that you would feel a close connection in your marriage. You hoped to feel important, trusted and deeply valued. These are some of the qualities of loving that you naturally want in your marriage. I became Certified as an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist a few years ago. Becoming Certified in this model of couple therapy was hard work and it took a few years. It was really worth it. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy helps your relationship repair and thrive. I want to help your relationship bring you the kind of happiness and satisfaction for which you hope.
You still want yourself and your partner to feel that very close connection. You still want to feel valued, trusted, and treasured. You want to feel that you matter deeply to one another; that you are essential in the most important ways to your husband or wife. But somehow that frustrating cycle of relating keeps getting in the way, or sometimes, worse, a distance develops in which it’s not easy to remember the basis for that original promise. I will work hard to help you feel this kind of connection to your partner.
There really is hope for help! Your strong loving feelings toward one another can return as the active agent for connecting in your relationship.
All couples have worries about beginning couple therapy. Seeking a marriage therapist can be a worrisome thing. What if your therapist doesn’t know how to help? What if things get worse?
I promise that I will help you know how to evaluate my ability to help you very early in our work. If I am not the right therapist for you, I will help you find a better match. I only charge for the initial consultation if you decide to return.
Please take some time to explore my website with your partner. I really do intend for this website to be full of relationship help that you can use, together, right now. I want my website to help you to come a little closer to one another. A great way to start is to follow the “Watch Together” link above. Look at a few of my short video clips from the movies to help you connect with your deeper feelings of need for one another. Or watch some of the other short videos to stimulate a conversation between you about what you are hoping to find more of between you. If you do this together it might help your hearts soften. Next, read a few of my short articles together. You might find yourselves thinking together about your shared vision for your relationship. That is an incredibly valuable step in finding your way together.
Robert Ogner, LCSW